Bontle M. Sibanda

Sinqobile Sibiya
Feb 20, 2018
4 min read

Blogger

I am currently 19, but will be turning 20 very soon. 🥂

I was born and raised in Pretoria (though I'm not quite sure which hospital I was born at).

Why do you want to be different?

Why do I want to be different ? Well.. I can't really answer that question because, I'd like to think that I'm already different.

What makes you different?

There's only one me.

The kind of music you listen to when you're upset?

I listen to "all types" of music when I am upset besides rock. Basically anything that turns my frown upside down and gets me dancing.

Besides your website and music do you have anything you do or use to calm yourself down, get yourself into a good space?

Umm... Honestly when I'm going through any type of situation, whether it be good or bad, I always have a "conversation" with God, which really puts me in a good space afterwards.

You've travelled quite a few times, where or which places have you travelled to?

Yes I have, which is honestly a blessing. I've been to Durban, Cape Town, Mozambique and a few other places in South Africa. Besides Mozambique, I've yet to travel outside South Africa (fingers crossed)

What are some of the things you have learnt or collected while travelling?

Umm... interacting with different people is always educating in one way or another, it teaches me to be appreciative of my surroundings and the things and people in my life. Through my travels I've collected a whole lot of genuine and happy moments, which I will forever have and be grateful for.

In your opinion, what things are the same or stay the same?

If you really think about it, nothing is really the same. Not even identical twins are the same.

A time you wanted to change a person and whether or not it worked?

I recently learnt that I sorta have a bad habit of wanting to control and change whomever I'm in a relationship with when things aren't particularly going my way. That is a no no! If a person wants to change, it should be willingly and for the better. So I personally don't recommend one forcing (key word) another to change.

What made you want to start your own website?

I started my own website because I was highly encouraged and motivated by a special friend of mine. She saw in me that I have the ability to give good advice and be there for people, which I absolutely love doing. Though I must admit I was a bit skeptical at first, because there's a lot of people with blogs similar to mine, so I wasn't sure how I'd make mine stand out, but I consulted with my parents and prayed about it and it just happened. It's literally my love and passion.

A recent event that made you angry or upset?

Geez anger is such a strong word, but umm.. recent ... nothing at all honestly. I've been very content lately and just happy with where I am at currently, regarding every aspect of my life.

A recent event that made you happy or excited?

I'm glad you asked this question, because I was extremely happy and excited after reading your request to feature in your blog, which is absolutely great. I am super grateful for this opportunity! I promise you so much joy overcame my heart after reading your message. I instantly thanked God for the opportunity.

Most of the time when I'm upset I just pray.

To have all the answers would absolutely be insane. No one can ever have all the answers. Knowledge is good and important. Why stop learning and growing. I wouldn't want to have all the answers.

My escape is prayer.

Something I've noticed about the world is that it is full of anger and hatred.

When are you in need of an escape?

Everyday actually. It's really refreshing to just relax after a long day.

To you, what kind of person is shallow and what kind of person has depth to them?

A shallow person for me would be one that allows negativity to chill in their heart, always seeking revenge and never has any pure intentions for the people that care and love them.

A person who has depth to them, is one who is authentic in everything they do, takes responsibility for their wrongdoings and has respect for themselves and the people around them.

Difference between Bontle at thirteen and Bontle now?

Wow! Huge difference in terms of having a back bone and standing up for myself. I'd always allow people to mistreat me and take my kindness for granted, I've learnt and grown from that. I'm constantly learning to love myself unconditionally, therefore I always try by all means to remove myself from relationships/friendships that hurt me emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

An event in your life where you forced yourself to go through something or go through with something?

I can't remember.

At this very moment, as i write down my answer, I'm thinking that...

I'm thinking that I want to go make coffee, which I shouldn't be having.

Best childhood memory

The first time my parents said they were proud of me, I can't remember what happened that day exactly but I'm pretty sure I did/say something amazing.

Would you wear pink hair?

If it were for a movie, photoshoot or something along those lines. I would. Why not?

Why do you think people deny themselves the opportunity to fart in public?

Because they know the amount of damage their fart can cause.